Saturday, May 15, 2010

Mexico destiny

One of Jenny's favorite things was Mexico, of course. We came at least once a year as adults, I'd estimate. Cheap SunTrips packages to Puerto Vallarta, Mazatlan, Zihuatanejo and such, but also flying our favorite dodgy airline, Taesa, to hit Guanajuato and explore its alleys and tortilla offerings.

Jenny wanted to figure out the secret of how to live in Mexico. She thought we could sell the Oakland house, buy a cheap beach house in Bandon, on the Oregon coast (they were cheap when we were contemplating this idea), and have enough left over to live in Mexico part of the year.

What we never realized was how to let go of keeping part of our lives in the United States. If we had seen that possibility then, maybe we would have made the move in time to shift the line of dominoes leading up to her dying. But it seems that it took Jenny dying to push me into the realization that I could give up the U.S. part of my life, except for the loved ones who I do visit when I can and to whom I write.


Diane said...

I love reading about your life in Mexico. We lived in SMA for 6 months and long to move back to Mexico. My only concern is that my children, who are now 15 and 11, would struggle to fit in and schooling might be an issue for college bound kids. I wish we had had the nerve to do it when the kids were much younger!

I too lost a loved one in an accident. My father, who was then 57, was hit by a car. I often think of how much of a positive impact he would have had on my children. I probably think about him every day...and this happened over 15 years ago.

I appreciate how you honor your sister, but don't get lost in the sadness... she wouldn't want that.

Serena said...

Diane, I'm so sorry to hear about your father. I agree that it's good to think about loved ones who are gone and how they would impact you and your children's lives today. In regard to living in Mexico, anything's possible! SMA is lovely, and Guanajuato was a back-up choice after Oaxaca.